Groups and why we belong to them

I belong to several discussion groups, some of them are listed on the right of this page. So why belong to groups, what's the benefit of talking about this lifestyle with people? Very simply to learn, to talk things through with people who have gone through the same things that we have, to discover new ways of doing things, to clarify our thoughts and bounce idea's around.

The discussions are fast paced and friendly because for the most part that's what we are, friendly people who share a common interest and see each other as people not just our position in the lifestyle. We treat each other with respect and at a bare minimum common courtesy and honesty, it doesn't matter if it's one of the boy's or one of the Domina's their opinions are given the same consideration and value.

We may not always agree on things, we may not all have the same kinks or fetishes, but we respect the right that others have to be turned on by things that we're not. We don't slap a sub down because they're beneath us, their words have just as much worth as anyone else's, they are just as valuable as a Domina is.

These groups works in part because of the differences we have, some groups are specific to only those who would find an interest in that subject. While I do enjoy seeing a naked man around the house I wouldn't join a group because of that fact, muscle men don't do a thing for me if they don't have a brain in their heads or a thought of their own, and as for cuckolding well I see no reason to have sex with a man who can't fulfill my every want and need.

Size matters, well yes it does but not in the way that most people think. I don't care if a man has a 3" penis or one he can wrap around his leg, it's not the penis submitting to me it's the man himself. It doesn't make any difference if the man is so tall I have to stand on a chair to kiss him when I want to or if I have to bend over, it's the look in his eye when I caress him and he purrs and leans into my touch that counts.

Who's a "real man" one who's so wrapped up in his own looks and needs/wants that he can't see the wonderful woman in front of him, or one who's secure enough in and of themselves, that they can with all their heart and soul serve that woman in front of them in whatever way she wants. Any fool with some time and a little money can go to a gym and beef up, it takes a "real man" to look deep into themselves to see the things that make them content, and get past their upbringing that men are supposed to be the master of their domain.

By all means if I was still looking for mine I would choose a "big man", one who's heart and mind are big enough to match mine, one who's not afraid to show his vulnerability and cry if he needs to, who's strong enough to bend his will to mine because it's what he wants and it brings me pleasure.