Different strokes for.. well you know the rest

I don't know about any other Ladies who Dominate but I get very tired of people wanting me to top them on their terms, I'm sure you know the type..

The one's who send you messages telling you they'll do anything for you.. begging you to use and abuse them.. humiliate them.. anything goes they have no limits.. do what you want to them just as long as they can worship you..
The one's who expect that just because you're Dominant that you're going to like the same things they do.. that you're there to serve their fantasy life while all the time they're convincing themselves that they serve you.. the one's who very indignantly state "well you're a Domme I know you just want to hurt and abuse me so get at it where's your whip".. YEA RIGHT

Before you send any kind of message to a Dominant or Top take the time to read Their profile and maybe if you're real lucky you might get a clue that We're not all the same, We don't like the same things and We're not going to do what you want but what We want. If you ever bother to read it you'll see Mine doesn't say anything about wanting to use and abuse anyone. In fact it says distinctly that I don't do that, I don't like it and I don't want my boi to cower from me or crawl like a worm.

How does it equate in your mind My saying that I get nothing from a person who doesn't have any respect for themselves to your demanding to be punished for being a worthless sack of shit by Me? And while I'm on the subject of your demands.. what the hell makes you think that as a submissive/slave you have any rights to make demands of Me or any other Dominant?

If you want to be used and abused go to someone who does appreciate it, who will bounce your balls off a wall just for giggles and Her own thrills just don't try involving me in your fantasy cause you won't like it one little bit.
Now that I've got that off my chest lets discuss their particular obsession with having their testicles abused.

Where the vast majority of males would do everything in their power to protect the family jewels these so called submissive males want/need/beg for them to be smacked around, beaten, kicked, well you get the drift I'm taking here.

Don't ask me why they want it, I don't have a clue I'm still trying to figure out why I get such a massive rush being in control of My boi and a rush when i'm serving Master. Quite frankly I've stopped questioning it and I'm just going with the flow now, taking what I learn from Master and using it as well as I can with my boi who may like a little tug every once in a while but certainly doesn't like having them used in a game of table tennis.

We all have the different strokes, the things that get the blood flowing and endorphine's rushing around.. yea gods if that feeling could be put into a pill the drug companies would make a fortune lol. I do get a thrill out of turning My boi's ass a nice shade of red and then watch him wriggle when he sits down, it does give me little shivers when I hold him tightly and hear his breath catch and the cute little moan... but why on earth would I want to risk damaging my toys by harming them?

In the lifestyle there are very blurred lines between BDSM and just plain old S&M, there are a lot of people that don't know there's any difference between them and even more who plain don't give a damn it's all the same to them.
It's not the same although the edges are very blurry and they sort of run into each other here's a striking difference if you'll excuse the pun.

Speaking personally the way I see it BDSM involves Domination both mental and physical and while the parties involved may get a rush from the physical side it's the control that really gets me personally. With S&M it's more about the pain giving the rush then the control, while they still may get a lot of it from the control or lack of it, it's the pain that really gets their motor running.

What could be more out of their control then to have their sexual organs kicked, smacked, punched or whatever. What could be more in control then to hold their manhood in your hand knowing that one blow could bring them to their knees in pain so intense that they're beyond tears or control of their bodily functions. See where the edges blur, while there's control there it's the pain or possability of pain that is the enticement and not the Dominance or submission.

With Me it's seeing them at My mercy shaking and begging restrained at My will either with bonds or just My voice telling them to be still, or when i'm serving Master it's being bound and blindfolded waiting and wondering.. See the difference it's more in the mind set then in the physical aspect that you'll find me breathless and aroused.. Where you fit in is up to you.