Fantasy vs Reality

Fantasy = "Master/Mistress i want to kneel here all day worshiping the ground you walk on"
Reality = There's bills to pay, rent and food, clothes have to be washed, the house has to be cleaned, the dogs have to be taken for a walk and I have to work, but while I do that I'll do it knowing it's going to bring You pleasure.

Very few people are independently wealthy enough to be able to afford to keep slaves/subs laying around doing nothing on the off chance that they'll feel like spanking someone. So how do you blend the reality of life outside of the Lifestyle with the Lifestyle and your need to Dominate/submit ?

For each couple it's a struggle and one that they have to be constantly on top of to keep it going smooth, there's time for Dominant/submissive and there's time for husband/wife or whatever combination you have that the outside world sees.
Living the Lifestyle 24/7 for many is a dream they pray for, it would be a fantasy come true where they can show their true inner self but all too often reality rears it's ugly head and bites them on the ass. After a few weeks of giving everything they have to the Lifestyle side of the relationship eventually they look in the bank and there's bills due, no food in the pantry and no gas in the car... and there's that awesome set of floggers that you just have to get not matter what.

24/7 doesn't work UNLESS you work at it, it's not going to come easy and without bumps or mountains in the road you've chosen to live. So what do you do so that the resentment over every day things doesn't torpedo the relationship as D/s that you have?

Communication is the key, and there's times when you have to be able to speak freely as life partners not as D/s and yes there's times when the Dominant is going to have to back down and put some ideas on the back burner.
Before things get to the point where you're lighting candles at night not for wax play but because the power's been cut due to the bill not being paid as there wasn't enough money left over from buying the new custom made spanking bench, sit down and talk things over, set a budget and live with it. Don't expect that just because the Dominant brought you into their home that they're going to pay all the bills alone while you kneel in a corner and wait for them to get home. As the saying goes "Don't quit your day job"

If this is going to be a long term relationship and not just a play party by the time you get to the point of being together 24/7 it's a good idea to sit down and go over

• how much each of you earns,
• what bills you have including any loans you have outstanding and credit cards,
• what property you own and what you're going to do with them if you move in together,
• your work schedule including any travel you have to do
• family commitments, child support, how you're going to introduce each other if you're not getting married, time that you spend with them
• are you a packrat and want to keep everything
• is the Dominant one going to provide uniforms or dress code for when you're alone or out in public
• who's going to pay for what

Those are just bare idea's but by getting them in the open and sorted out it's going to get rid of one headache before it starts.

The Dominant one wants new toys to use on you.. stop drooling there's a car payment due and very little left in the bank so They walk in with said toy and you're going to have a late payment on the vehicle.. no drooling over the toys here. Trust me screaming "are you nuts what the hell did you buy that for when we're broke" is not going to get you a comfortable play time with those toys it's more likely to get you shut in the cage for the night without a blanket. You had a lousy day at work and you're really not feeling submissive you want to kill something.. don't take this time to push the Dominant's buttons to see how far you can get cause you won't like it.

See those two little examples right there blew the fantasy of kneeling worshiping anyone all to hell, because reality reared it's head. Anyone online can sit in a chat room and pledge their undieing devotion to their Dominant, anyone with a Master or Mistress in front of their name can promise to care for and protect their little one. Once you get out of the chat room and start looking round those promises have a habbit of going out the window, learn to work together to bring the fantasy into reality and keep working on it.