Why is there a shortage of FemDom's

I belong to several groups for discussions, most of them are FemDom or D/s and one thing that comes up repeatedly is the lack of Mistresses or Domina's. Various numbers are thrown out by people, that there's anywhere from 10 to 100 submissive's to each non pro Domina. I have no idea if those numbers are right or not, I know I get a ton of IM's from men who think I'm there waiting to play with them.

Their main complaint is all they can find online are either Pro Domme's or "money" Domme's. The difference being that a Pro will schedule time for them to have a session taking care of their fetish needs, a "money" Domme may not have any information about the lifestyle at all but if you send them money or get them something from their wish list they'll fake it.

"Real" Domina's don't advertize online, they don't have to. All they need do is pop into a chat room somewhere and they're inundated with horny sub's who are looking for someone to own them for a few hours or forever.

So if they're not advertizing online where are they? They're at local munch meetings or play parties, they're online talking to their own sub's and others in chat rooms, they're putting their thoughts in blogs. They're not there sitting by the computer waiting for some horny toad to pop up and role play a fantasy out for them.

So instead of looking online for them and getting let down, get off your lazy hind end and go out to functions and lifestyle events, get to know real people in the real world and not just someone playing dress up on the computer.

A welcome to My mind, such as it is

The majority of my blog posts have been made on yahoo, which seems to be either changing things constantly or moving them permanently. Either way hopefully I'll remember to post more often here.

Firstly about me, as my profile states I'm a Wife to my submissive hubby, a Mother and a very proud Grandma to a very handsom grandson and a beautiful granddaughter.

My views on the Lifestyle are quite simple, abuse has no place in it everything else is open to negotiation between consenting adults.

Let me make it plain in case my profile didn't get saved,
I am not searching for any submissive's,
I am not looking for a Dominant to put me in my place,
I am very happy in the place I'm in thank you very much.

What I am here to do is share a little of how My mind works with my friends, to offer what advice I can to those new to the Lifestyle and to share thoughts and opinions with friends.